My Prom Story | It’s Not Like the Movies

My Prom Story | It’s Not Like the Movies

Hi Everyone!

It’s almost prom season! Most ladies will probably be looking for their prom dresses or have already found one. It’s been a number of years since my prom, but I’d like to share my experience at prom. I wish I could say that I danced the night away, but it’s not like the movies or tv shows you watch. Especially since Canadian proms are different from American ones- we don’t have a prom court where we vote for Prom King and Queen. Maybe other schools in Canada do, but ours didn’t.

Prom is a rite of passage for finishing high school, so even if I don’t sound like I enjoyed it, I had fun with my friends and got to dress up. It may not seem like it, but prom is expensive. You spend hundreds of dollars for one night. Now, I know what you’re thinking…a wedding is the same, you spend thousands of dollars for one night too, but at least at your wedding, you’re the centre of attention. At prom, you just get mixed in with the rest of your classmates. For my prom, I think I spent about $500-700…or rather, my parents spent $500-700. Thanks mom and dad! I’m sure other people spent a lot more. Some people spend that much on their dress. The following is a list of costs that I racked up for my prom:

CategoryCost
Dress$380
Shoes$30
Accessories$30
Hair and makeup$0
Mani/pedi$15
Prom ticket$100
Limo$45
Total$600

I bought my dress from BCBG MaxAzria. I had a hard time finding shoes. I wanted silver ones. I would’ve spent more if I could find a pair that I liked, but I found an okay pair for $30. I already owned the earrings I wore, but I bought a silver clutch. I did my own hair and did eye makeup with some concealer (this was before I used foundation). The limousine was $45 per person with a group of 14. Our school held an after party on a boat. I didn’t attend and I can’t remember how much it was (maybe $20-50). My date chose not to wear a jacket, so I didn’t get a boutonniere for him. He let me order the corsage (for which he paid me back, that cost about $12-15) so I could choose what I wanted.

The Dress

The search for the prom dress took a while, I dragged my mom to multiple stores for two months. Originally I got a black tulle strapless dress from Mendocino, but it was a bit loose and I was afraid it would fall down. Also, after some thinking, it wasn’t really my style. I think I started getting desperate and settled for it. I ended up returning it.

We even went to a bridal store and considered getting a custom one, but by the time I started looking, there wouldn’t have been enough time to order one. So we went everywhere else. I first saw the one at BCBG and I liked it, but wasn’t absolutely in love with it, so we kept looking. After a few weeks, we couldn’t find anything and it was cutting closer to prom, so we went back to BCBG and I bought the dress.

In the past few years, it’s become more popular for girls to choose long dresses. For our prom, more of the ladies opted for short/tea length dresses. Only a handful had long ones. I used to think I was too petite for long dresses and they’d make me look shorter. Now I love maxi dresses, especially after wearing a long bridesmaid dress for my sister’s wedding (check it out here!). You just need to know how to accessorize and flatter your shape.

I wish I accessorized with a necklace. Since my dress was strapless, my shoulders and neck were pretty bare. The selfie below is from when I recreated my makeup look. Surprisingly, I didn’t take any full-length solo shots at prom. The selfie is a better quality than cropping a pic with my friends.

I recreated my prom makeup look and also did an updated look on what I would do today. Check out the post!

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The Date

Back when I was in high school, promposals weren’t a huge thing like they are today. Originally I was going to just go with my group of friends, but it seemed like most of them were getting prom dates. Plus, I thought it’d be nice to have a prom date anyway, so I asked a fellow classmate. I asked him on MSN- I’ve always been more outgoing when communicating with people online. I tend to open up more to people because I’m more of a writer than a talker. Plus, I was shy and didn’t know if I would get rejected or not. I remember I was talking to my friend and asked if I should ask him or not…she said to go for it, so I did. Either way, I would’ve been going with my friends, so it didn’t really matter if he said no. One day during English class, my classmates and I were chatting about prom and I found out that my prospective date wasn’t planning to go to prom. Later that day, I asked him if he would go to prom with me. I told him that I understand if he didn’t want to go. It was close to the day and he’d be shelling out $100 for a ticket and other expenses. To my surprise, he said yes! My closest friends knew I invited him and when we got to prom, I think some people were kind of surprised that we showed up together. We weren’t in the same friend group and we were probably only seen talking about schoolwork by our classmates. We had multiple classes together and we would chat on MSN. 


The Day

On prom day, my friends and I went to get manicures and pedicures. I’m very ticklish, so I just got a manicure. I’ve always had the fear that I would be getting a pedicure and accidentally kick the lady in the face from being too ticklish.

Everyone came to my house to get ready together and take pictures. I don’t have a pool like most prom pictures include, but we took pictures on my front lawn and porch which was good enough for us. My friends plus dates were a group of 9. I think it was an awkward number to have, we either had too many for a smaller one or not enough for a bigger one. So we asked another group of friends who lived close by to share a limo with us.

Our prom was at the Design Exchange– it was really nice and the food was okay (chicken, potatoes and veggies). I think I was the only one to finish my plate- I was hungry after the hair and makeup prep. We didn’t really dance that much at our prom, but we mingled with other friends and took lots of pictures. We got the professional prom date picture that everyone takes.

After Party

The school rented a boat for our after party. A lot of people went to the after party, but two of my friends and I decided not to attend. We had a sleepover instead. We watched some movies and played games. I think we had more fun than if we had gone to the after party. Some of my friends went. I remember they quickly got changed and rushed over to get to the dock on time. Parties aren’t my thing and I didn’t want to be stuck in the middle of the water with a bunch of drunk classmates.

It wasn’t like proms you see in movies like She’s All That and Never Been Kissed (lol those are really old references) but I still enjoyed myself because I was with my friends. So if you’re on the fence about going, I think it’s something that everyone should experience, even if it’s not what you expect!

Did you go to your prom? I’d love to hear about your experience in the comments!

Love

jen

The Day

On prom day, my friends and I went to get manicures and pedicures. I’m very ticklish, so I just got a manicure. I’ve always had the fear that I would be getting a pedicure and accidentally kick the lady in the face from being too ticklish.

Everyone came to my house to get ready together and take pictures. I don’t have a pool like most prom pictures include, but we took pictures on my front lawn and porch which was good enough for us. My friends plus dates were a group of 9. I think it was an awkward number to have, we either had too many for a smaller one or not enough for a bigger one. So we asked another group of friends who lived close by to share a limo with us.

Our prom was at the Design Exchange– it was really nice and the food was okay (chicken, potatoes and veggies). I think I was the only one to finish my plate- I was hungry after the hair and makeup prep. We didn’t really dance that much at our prom, but we mingled with other friends and took lots of pictures. We got the professional prom date picture that everyone takes.

After Party

The school rented a boat for our after party. A lot of people went to the after party, but two of my friends and I decided not to attend. We had a sleepover instead. We watched some movies and played games. I think we had more fun than if we had gone to the after party. Some of my friends went. I remember they quickly got changed and rushed over to get to the dock on time. Parties aren’t my thing and I didn’t want to be stuck in the middle of the water with a bunch of drunk classmates.

It wasn’t like proms you see in movies like She’s All That and Never Been Kissed (lol those are really old references) but I still enjoyed myself because I was with my friends. So if you’re on the fence about going, I think it’s something that everyone should experience, even if it’s not what you expect!

Did you go to your prom? I’d love to hear about your experience in the comments!

One response to “My Prom Story | It’s Not Like the Movies”

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    My prom wasn’t like what the depict in movies, but what they do capture well is the anxiety. I was terribly nervous during prom season in my final high school year. Prom was all anyone could talk about. There was so much excitement in the air as friends and peers gossiped who they would ask to be their dates and what they would wear. I too had my own fantasies, but being as shy and introverted as I was, such thoughts were more discouraging than anything. I had always dreamt of asking my high school crush to prom and recited my proposal dozens of times. She was someone I always admired – beautiful, smart, and incredibly cute – but we weren’t very close despite sharing many classes together. Asking her to prom, let alone telling her how I felt was way over my head.

    As weeks went by and the prom fast approaching, I gave up on the idea of attending. I couldn’t bring myself to ask that special someone and I didn’t want to be ridiculed for going alone. Yet just days before the event, I got an unexpected message. I couldn’t believe it, the very girl who I wanted to ask to be my date was asking me to go with her! She had made my heart skip a beat before, but boy was my heart racing. It was quite challenging to keep my composure even just to give a reply, a laughable struggle trying to find the best way to say “yes”. Somehow with a few keystrokes and an emoji or two later, it was set – I was officially going to prom with my high school sweetheart.

    Come prom day, I met her and our mutual friends at her place to take photos before taking a limo together to the prom. I remember being completely awestruck the moment I laid eyes on her. She wore a gorgeous blue dress and had her hair curled and tied back, together with her captivating smile and gaze. I couldn’t put it into words just how stunning she looked. I guess it didn’t help that when I tried it was in front of her parents! Awkwardness aside, we all had a fun time posing and showing off our prom looks for the cameras. I still cringe every time I revisit these photos, forever questioning why I look like a pubescent version of the Pringles mascot. Definitely not my finest hour, but the photos were certainly worth it.

    The prom itself was what you would expect it to be. There was food, music, and dancing but not as lavish and hyped as in the movies. The food was decent at best and the music wasn’t as upbeat as it could have been. But all that didn’t matter, because I got the chance to spend the evening with my date. Or that was until prom anxiety kicked into full gear. When the MC started counting down when it was time to dance, I could not bring myself to ask for her hand. You would think I would be nervous because I couldn’t dance, but on the contrary I had been practicing my “moves” for that very moment. It still makes me laugh thinking about it. But she never did get to see them. As much I wanted to and tried developing the courage to ask my date to dance, the night was already over I lost the opportunity to share that moment with her.

    I always regretted not being able to make it a night to remember for my date. I know how much time and effort she put to make herself look ever so glamorous. I know the courage it took for her to ask me to be her date. I just didn’t have the confidence to make her/our prom dreams come true. If I only I had a time machine to do it all over again. Be bold, be courageous, and don’t overthink it. I learned it the hard way that it is okay to have the jitters proposing to your prom date or asking them to dance. Trust me when I say there is more comfort having a formal answer than always wondering the unknown and what could have been done differently. Prom is meant be a fun and memorable experience, so just go and enjoy yourself!

    Prom for me was nearly 8 years ago. To this day, I am still very thankful that she invited me to prom with her. Sadly, I never did confess to my crush and after graduating we grew apart. However, I am confident she is doing well and is making a name for herself. I can only imagine she is still as beautiful as I remember her, probably even more so now. Hopefully our paths cross someday, perhaps a new start to be better acquainted. Wherever she is, I wish her all the best. Rumour has it she is now a Toronto Beauty and Lifestyle Blogger.

    Sincerely,

    JH

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